Karl Lynch

sonneillonv: autumn-and-eve: erinsmomma: How can someone...

Sun, 19 May 2013 18:07:59 +0900

autumn-and-eve:

erinsmomma:

How can someone stand behind abortion, when you have a life inside of you that God created for you? How can you say that this life isn’t worth it? If you can’t take care of the baby for whatever circumstances than there is always adoption available to couples who can’t conceive, but still want the joy of being parents. OPEN YOUR EYES! God has bigger plans for us all that we don’t even realize the picture.

Excuse me but it appears your baby is actually upside down
Did you take Sex Ed freshman year because babies come out headfirst

Hi, OP! As someone who was given up for adoption, allow me to call bullshit on your little post there! You see, when I was adopted, I was a white-skinned, healthy, neurotypical infant, which basically put me at the top of the list, right underneath white-skinned, healthy, neurotypical MALE infants! There’s only one kind of infant people wanted to adopt more than me! I was SOOO lucky! But if you actually bothered to look at the information readily available on the interwebs, you would be aware that the majority of people who are forced to rely on abortion for family planning are poor people and people of color. Of course, those two demographics intersect, thanks to the institutionalized racism of our society! Neat huh?!

Of course, even babies of color are not in high demand with couples looking to adopt. Many who do want to adopt outside their race choose to go outside the country, where laws are less strict and the process is often less expensive. Of course, most of the infants adopted this way are obtained in unscrupulous fashion, but who cares about that when you’re saving a little Korean or African baby from the horrible fate of growing up in Korea or Africa??? And all those children who have birth defects, are born with diseases or disabilities, or have other issues… WELL. Who wants to invest that kind of expense and time? Why would you adopt someone broken, LOLOL?!

Granted, there are some wonderful people who understand the system a little better, and make it a point to try and give POC and disabled children a good home. But they make up a very small fraction of potential adopters! This difference in supply and demand leaves a lot of children stuck in the foster system, where their chances of being adopted diminish with every passing year, and their chances of being physically or sexually abused INCREASE! Isn’t that wonderful?

And of course, we haven’t even talked about the person who is giving birth to the baby! I know you probably think pregnancy is a wonderful, happy time, and for some people it is, but it is also one of the greatest health risks a person can take. I love my son very much, and from the day I found out I was pregnant with him, I wanted him! But I also nearly died giving birth to him. You see, I had pre-eclampsia, the most commonly fatal birth complication in the world. My blood pressure was 180 over 130! At twenty-two years old, I was actually headed for a stroke, hah hah! How funny is that? And all it took was missing a single pre-natal appointment during which my blood pressure rose to dangerous levels and my body tried to kill both me and my son. Those seizures sure were fun, as was the emergency c-section performed without anesthetic! And being chained down while the operation was performed, because I was delirious and wouldn’t stop trying to fight off the doctors, that was a BLAST! It was great for my husband too, since he almost lost his wife and child in just forty-five minutes. You can imagine how thrilled he is at the prospect of me ever getting pregnant again. Babies are certainly cute, but pregnancy can have massive health complications, and I know it’s such a bummer, but they are PERMANENT. :( My abdominal muscles never recovered from being hacked through with a scalpel, and the flood of hormones caused by late pregnancy have changed things from heartburn (never used to have it, now, all the time!) to my emotional reactions (I cry when I see pictures of kittens now. I used to be tough). These are changes I did not ask for, cannot control, and cannot fix! And many people go through worse! I know, right? Unbelievable, but go look up the word ‘episiotomy’ and then look up ‘birth rape’ and I’m afraid you’ll find some stuff that just isn’t very shiny. Plus, the studies actually show that people who carry a baby to term, give birth, then give it up for adoption suffer HIGHER rates of post-pregnancy complications like post-partum depression and post-partum psychosis, general depression, and other mental health issues. Adoption actually isn’t good for the person giving birth at all!

I’m afraid the picture you chose to use there is also pretty disingenuous. I know, I know, it seems like nitpicking. I’m not trying to be mean! :( But that picture shows a fully developed, viable infant, and most abortions are performed when the fetus isn’t even a fetus - it’s a blastocyst. That’s just a clump of cells. Seriously! You can totally find pictures on the interwebs and they’re not even gross, LOLOL! Later-term abortions are usually performed because of health complications, though some of our intrepid state legislators are trying to change all that! They care so much about people who are pregnant, you see, that they want to force them to carry dead or dying fetuses inside them until their body either becomes infected while it rots in their tummies (this is called sepsis, and it makes people very sick, and can even kill them!), or forces it out naturally in a gush of blood and fluids! Isn’t that so caring of them? I’m so glad they’re around to make those decisions for me! And if a pregnant person is not allowed to terminate an unviable fetus, in some states, they have to carry the child to term, give birth to it, and then watch it die in their arms because its lungs weren’t developed, or its brain formed outside its skull, or any of a million possible birth defects that will kill you just as quick as lickity-split! Isn’t that wild?! Of course, these people go through terrible grief, and as I mentioned, some of them may get sick and die from not being able to abort dead or dying fetuses. But I guess that’s just A-okay with you, huh?

Basically, I think before you suggest adoption as a universal alternative, you should actually go do some research on adoption. And before you condemn abortion, you should do some research on abortions - not the stuff your church is giving you, the stuff the real doctors are saying. Go to Planned Parenthood (if they haven’t all been closed down, ROFLMAO!) and request whatever information they have on the process, the statistics of who has abortions and why… and actually, all of that is on the interwebs! Isn’t technology AMAZING?

And in closing, since I’ve been asked this question many times and I know it’s coming? Yes, I realize I am here talking to you because I was not aborted. But the thing is, if my mother had chosen abortion, I wouldn’t know the difference, so it wouldn’t matter to me. And if she decided that choice was best for her, then that choice would have been best for her, and I would never want to take that choice away from her. As it is, since I was given up for adoption, and since I have seen the statistics on how badly people who give their children up for adoption suffer, I have spent much of my adult life worrying about her, whether she’s healthy, whether she’s okay, and feeling that if she did suffer from any of the common post-birth symptoms, it is at least partially my fault, even though she made that decision on her own. Which is silly, I know, but at some point, all children have to stare down the consequences of their parents’ having them. For some, that’s poverty. For others, a life-time of their parents struggling to treat and care for a severe illness or disability. For others, it’s wondering if their mother ever got over giving them away, and wishing you could reach out and assure her that it’s okay, she doesn’t have to be haunted.

May your birth control never fail!

youjoqueer: 10/ 10! thumbs up Jesus gives this 10/10!

Sun, 31 Mar 2013 17:39:11 +0900

youjoqueer:

10/ 10! *thumbs up*

Jesus gives this 10/10!

jtotheizzoe: How to win a climate change argument, in one...

Wed, 06 Mar 2013 05:44:19 +0900

jtotheizzoe:

How to win a climate change argument, in one chart.

(via Slate Magazine)

lgbtlaughs: XBOX Live: Progress

Sun, 17 Feb 2013 03:40:11 +0900

lgbtlaughs:

XBOX Live: Progress

My newest invention: the Sling-a-majig!

Tue, 05 Feb 2013 08:02:49 +0900

The Sling-a-majig lets you take your ultrabook or netbook PC with you and get access to it just like a tablet!

Basically this is me scratching my own itch: I wanted a tablet, but one that I can actually do stuff on like work in Visual Studio. Surface Pro would do it, but it’d need a keyboard, a mouse and blah blah blah. Why can’t I just have easy access to my trusty Thinkpad?

Enter the Sling-a-majig. Its a tight skin that wraps the laptop attached to a shoulder strap. My Thinkpad is light so easily sits on my shoulder, and this way it opens straight out when I want access to it!

No bulky bags, unzipping carry cases or any of that nonsense.

Just open the Sling-a-majig up and you’re ready to go! Fold it closed and sling it over your shoulder when you’re done.

Here I am modelling it:

My next additions will be tidying up the strap with some eyelets and adding a little padding under the skin to help keep the laptop free of dinks!

If anyone’s interested, I can share the design :)

Photo

Tue, 22 Jan 2013 07:58:33 +0900

The Real Toy Story, Photo Series of Chinese Toy Factory Workers

Sun, 09 Dec 2012 00:55:16 +0900

The Real Toy Story, Photo Series of Chinese Toy Factory Workers

dumbthingswhitepplsay: ethiopienne: Forever...

Sat, 17 Nov 2012 18:58:18 +0900

dumbthingswhitepplsay:

ethiopienne:

Forever reblog.

hallelujah

collegehumor: Trick or Treat [Click for more] Superman...

Thu, 01 Nov 2012 18:57:59 +0900

collegehumor:

Trick or Treat [Click for more]

Superman should’ve helped.

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Mon, 08 Oct 2012 00:48:55 +0900

itswalky: choochoobear: mollycrabapple: I want to buy whoever...

Wed, 26 Sep 2012 17:13:39 +0900

itswalky:

choochoobear:

mollycrabapple:

I want to buy whoever made this the finest single malt whiskey in the world

Update: It’s by the street artist Faz, and they have more on their tumblr

Wait, guys randomly stop women on the street and tell them to smile? That’s… fucking rude as hell. What the fuck?

Wait, street artist Faz?

laughingsquid: Pizza: A How-To

Tue, 11 Sep 2012 04:50:22 +0900

laughingsquid:

Pizza: A How-To

siphersaysstuff:

Tue, 11 Sep 2012 03:34:26 +0900

siphersaysstuff:

laughingsquid: Characternity, An Illustration of 2,500 Animated...

Sat, 08 Sep 2012 17:18:32 +0900

laughingsquid:

Characternity, An Illustration of 2,500 Animated Pop Culture Characters

laughingsquid: Removie Posters, Films Posters Reimagined With...

Sat, 08 Sep 2012 16:51:41 +0900

laughingsquid:

Removie Posters, Films Posters Reimagined With One Letter Missing

marylikesbirds: ahaha my college is great

Wed, 29 Aug 2012 03:21:35 +0900

marylikesbirds:

ahaha my college is great

collegehumor: DIY Lacoste Shirt Note: do not use live...

Sat, 25 Aug 2012 18:19:43 +0900

collegehumor:

DIY Lacoste Shirt

Note: do not use live alligator.

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Sat, 25 Aug 2012 18:17:30 +0900

finalellipsis: hi I got you a slice of pizza

Sat, 25 Aug 2012 18:14:24 +0900

finalellipsis:

hi I got you a slice of pizza

weddingequality: Hiroshi and Philip Civil-Unionised under the...

Tue, 31 Jul 2012 05:35:23 +0900

weddingequality:

Hiroshi and Philip Civil-Unionised under the NZ law

Philip Turner, a New Zealand citizen, and Hiroshi Ikeda, a Japanese citizen and NZ permanent resident, had lived together already more than 16 years. We were bonded with Civil Union under the NZ law in December 2010 in Auckland, New Zealand. Unfortunately, we cannot have any legal protection under the Japanese law, and Hiroshi is working with a group to make a partnership law happen in Japan.